How to Choose What Matters Most

Drenda Keesee

Do you feel like there are more things to do in a day than there is time to do them?

Life has sped up.

Sure, there are still 24 hours in a day, but the days are filled with many more demands. How do you manage to get it all done?

You have to choose what matters most.

It’s easy to get caught up with the urgent and miss the ultimate—the things that matter most, the things that should take the highest priority in our list of things to do.

Your purpose and priorities should determine your time commitments.

Ask yourself these questions:

  • What is my purpose?
  • Why do I exist?
  • What is the most important outcome for this season that I’m in?

Then, prioritize.

Make decisions based on your ultimate purpose, and manage your life according to those priorities. Some of these will change over time, but the ultimate ones will remain.

If you don’t know the overarching purpose of your life and what you want to accomplish by the end of it, you won’t know which time demands are truly the important ones.

All of us have the same amount of time each day, so we have to make decisions to eliminate and then concentrate. You can simplify your life by removing things and events—and sometimes even people—from your schedule. You can’t be everywhere and do everything, so you need to decide which relationships and investments of time you can make to reach your purpose and keep your priorities.

For instance, I’ve seen moms spend too much time with friends at the expense of their children, or dads who sacrifice fleeting years with their children by watching television, or others who risk their marriages to build their careers.

We have to eliminate time wasters and focus on what matters eternally.

Whenever problems occur in relationships, we can be sure it didn’t happen overnight. Our priorities have much to do with the outcomes in our life.

To quote the Barnes Commentary: “The prayer is that God would enable us to form such an estimate of life that we shall be truly wise; that we may be able to act ‘as if’ we saw the whole of life, or as we should do if we saw its end.”

To recognize that each day is important in the building process of dreams and legacies is crucial. Our family and future generations are depending on us to make right decisions today.

God. Family. Work. Ministry. Friends. Rest. Recreation.

Make everyday count. View your day through the lens of eternity. Set appointments in your schedule to be with your children, to have a date night with your spouse, and especially to spend time with God. When you spend time with God, your attitude toward life is more positive and you accomplish much more in a day.

Time can also be wasted on negative thoughts and meditating on the wrong things. Sift your thoughts and let go of wrong medications on issues that will make you negative or take your focus. Don’t be distracted if the enemy tries to throw you a curve ball. Just hit it out of the park and keep going.

Take control of your day, and your life, with God’s help.

King David asked God, “Teach us to number our days that we gain a heart of wisdom.” (Psalm 90:12)

The most important use of my time and yours is to seek God’s wisdom. If we have a heart of wisdom, we will know which priorities to choose. The Holy Spirit will direct our steps and work things out. Try not to sweat the details. Sometimes, I have to make a choice to let go of things that aren’t working the way I want and give my expectations to God. He always redeems my time and my dreams when I seek Him first. I often say to myself, “God is perfecting that which concerns me, so I can rest in Him.”

Sometimes we just have to readjust each day as we go, and trust God.

If you and I look at the end goal and work backwards, we can create our schedule to fit each changing season—helping us choose the best priorities for the days.

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