“She’s giving me the silent treatment for choosing what was best for my family.”
“They were so mean to me last week, but now that I have something they want, they’re being nice.”
“I really don’t want to go to that dinner, but I’m afraid he’ll be mad if I say no.”
Some people treat us this way naively, simply motivated by feelings of jealousy, control, insecurity, or anger.
Others do it compulsively. I call those people “sharks.”
We can all be sharks or demonstrate sharklike qualities from time to time, but these people do this so consistently, so maliciously, that this isn’t an accident on their part—it’s a habit.
We all like to think we’re the masters of our lives and that we don’t allow ourselves to be manipulated or controlled by anyone, but that’s rarely the case. Even people’s unwilling social cues can cause us to make decisions we otherwise wouldn’t.
In most cases, we become shark bait by taking false responsibility.
Recognizing when we tend to become shark bait can help us change direction and swim to free waters.
Here are some telltale symptoms you’ll experience when you’re being manipulated by a shark:
Dread is often a symptom of being shark bait. I remember a time when I experienced dread every time I had to speak or step out in my calling. I felt like I couldn’t do anything right. And the reason why? I dreaded hearing the opinion of a specific woman who always gave me her two cents worth on how she thought I did. We were “friends,” so I thought she had my best interests at heart.
Wrong.
I remember talking to Gary one day and saying, “They’re going to think…”
My husband interrupted kindly, “Honey, who’s they? ”
I finally took a step back and realized this “friend’s” criticism was a huge source of anxiety in my life.
See, when a shark has influence in your life, it makes you want to stay in the boat. They make you feel intimidated, trapped, can take the fun out of your calling, and, ultimately, make you want to quit or give up.
Another symptom of being shark bait is self-doubt . Sharks make you feel like you aren’t capable, so you want to just give up before you even try. When a shark has influence in your life, you may find yourself quick to turn down opportunities and afraid you’ll invite their criticism and upset the waters.
Self-doubt is like poison—if you tolerate it, even just a little, it will kill your confidence and can even make you feel paralyzed.
“The only thing wrong with trying to please everyone is that there’s always at least one person who will remain unhappy—you.” —Elizabeth Parker
Once dread and self-doubt consume you, you’ll find yourself surrendering your dreams at the altar of fear. You don’t think you’ll ever achieve your dreams, so you start to settle for what sharks tell you you can do and have.
Friend, only God can tell you what you can do, who you are, and what you have through Him.
Recognize when you’re dealing with the symptoms of being shark bait and get out of the shark-infested waters as quickly as possible.
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